MarriageDigest Issue 01
I enjoy reading. Am I saying that just so you think I’m smart? That I spend my afternoons on my balcony in a rocking chair with a book in one hand and a corncob pipe in the other? Possibly.
Lately there’s been a trend in my reading. Marriage. Did you know I’m getting married? I’m pretty sure it’s mentioned in literally everything I write so hopefully that didn’t slip by. In fact, I don’t even know what I’ll write about after the wedding. I talk so much about getting ready to be married, I might just run out of material after next month. Anyway…
For some reason, I always loved the idea of marriage books. Any time I would go into the bookstore and see a book that was love or marriage related I would feel like I was missing out on something. I mean I guess I could have just bought one, but I didn’t want to be the weird guy reading up on marriage without actually being married. I’m pretty sure that’s how serial killers are made…Too far?
Well the day finally came where I got to buy one of these books. At our first pre-marital counseling meeting, our friend Tyler recommended Timothy Keller’s book “The Meaning of Marriage”. My time had finally come. And oh what a glorious day! Well, as glorious as buying a book can be. I was on such a marriage book high that the next day, I went to the store to buy a second book. I went into the Christian bookstore and went up to the huge marriage section. I think there were more books on marriage than Bibles in the store. I grabbed my new book “Mingling of Souls” by Matt Chandler, but I stuck around to look at all of the other books for a minute. That’s when I decided, two is enough. In fact, one is enough, I kind of feel like I’m pushing it with two.
But how many marriage books are too many? There’s a huge emphasis on marriage in Christian culture. Your salvation depends on it. That’s in the Bible…okay not really, but sometimes we sure act like it is.
Maybe I’m just being shallow and don’t want to be judged when people come over to our apartment. “Did you see how many marriage books Lauren and Kyle had? They must have some problemmmms…” That’s what I’d think, but I’m very judging. Another thing that kind of got to me was just the amount of marriage books in general. Especially at a Christian bookstore. How many messages about marriage do we have to send out? I mean, once someone put out a book with the tagline “What The Bible Says About Marriage”, shouldn’t they have just called it a day? “Crap, Tim got to it first, guess we’ll have to write about something else.” Instead there are hundreds of books that all say the same thing, and different versions of the same thing. I get having a preference for a certain author, that’s why I got the books I did. But it just seems excessive.
Now don't get me wrong, I love the books I've got. But I guess what I’m getting at is realizing that I’d rather read what the Bible says about marriage and act on that, rather than base my marriage on 30 books with 30 different views of how it should look. I’m sure I’ll buy plenty more marriage books. Oh like “5 Love Languages” I always thought it’d be fun to learn a new language. But for now...I think we'll be okay.